How to Get Your
You’ve been regretting it since the day
you let her go. And you can’t sleep
another day without doing something
about it. If you really love her, do not
give up. Get on your feet and win your
To start you off the right track, here are
some points and tips to keep in mind.
Give her space after the break-up. The
harder you push, the more she might
pull away. If she says she needs some
time, respect her decision. Do not call
her every minute of the day. Last thing
you want is to annoy her with your over-
persistence, and worse, drive her into a
habit of hiding from you.
Do not beg or plead. This tends to
scream desperation. Even if you are
actually desperate to win her back, do
not turn clingy.
You can court her all over again with
flowers, chocolates and letters. But while
the gifts are bound to draw a smile,
winning her back will require a more
personal and sincere gesture.
Show her that you are worthy of a
second chance . Use the time you have
spent apart since the break-up to reflect.
Think back on the qualities that
attracted her to you in the first place.
Play up your strengths. Become the man
she first fell for.
Figure out what exactly went wrong
with your relationship. Replay in your
head the conversations, and even fights,
From there, you’ll know what needs to
be fixed . If it was something you did, ask
yourself why you did it in the first place.
This way, you are clear on which issues
you need to come to terms with. If it was
a problem with your behavior, then work
on your weak spots.
After you have made the necessary
“fixes”, arrange to meet or talk with
her . You can check with her friends if
they think she’s ready to hear you out.
When she does agree to a
conversation, humbly apologize for
your wrongdoings and take
responsibility for your actions . “Sorry”
goes a long way.
But do not stop at an apology. Convince
her that your relationship deserves a do-
over. Assure her that you will be a much
better partner this time around. Pour
your heart out.
Do not, however, force the
reconciliation . Show her how much you
want to be with her. Let everything else
fall into place.
Also, do not pressure her into deciding
on your future right away . Let her know
of your intentions and your feelings, but
assure her that you will completely
respect her choice.
Remember that there’s no need to focus
all your energies on this quest. Have
some time to yourself as well. Do what
makes you feel good, may it be a new
diet, a new hobby or a new look. Who
knows, this might even win you extra
points with her.
The effective “rules of engagement” will
vary with each guy and each
relationship. Use the tips listed above as
a guide to plotting your plan of action.
Just remember that sincerity and
determination are key. And of course,
being mature, responsible, respectful
and thoughtful always comes handy.