10 Things Everyone Needs To Know About Breakups.
1. It’s alright to break up even if nothing bad happened.
A lot of times we wait until something terrible happens
to break up with someone. I recently broke up with a
boyfriend, and for the first time, it was before someone
cheated, before someone did something unrepairable.
At first it was hard because I had no solid reason to
feel anger and resentment, which I really could have
used to get over him, but in the end we were able to
2. Unfollow them.
You don’t need to see what he’s doing and who he’s
seeing. As soon as you break up, unfriend him from
Facebook, unfollow him from Instagram, remove him
from Twitter and say goodbye to whatever the fuck
else he’s on.
3. Sweat out your emotions.
There were a lot of nights I spent feeling sad or
anxious after my break up. Until I joined a gym. Once I
started pouring my pent up emotions onto the treadmill
I started feeling empowered and in control of my
emotions. Of course there are those emotions that just
sneak up on you but whenever they do grab your
sneakers or yoga mat and sweat that shit out. You will
always feel better after. Plus, there’s the added bonus
of getting in shape at the same time, which is a
confidence booster and gets you ready for your
4. Don’t get wasted.
At least for the first month or so. When you get drunk,
you’re going to think it’s a great idea to call your ex-
boyfriend. That can only end in tears. It’s fine to have
a couple drinks to take the edge off, but if for some
reason you absolutely need to get drunk make sure you
have your friends around to supervise your phone.
5. Feel your feelings.
Breaking up sucks – you miss him. You feel sad, angry,
lonely, depressed and all that shitty stuff. But don’t try
to keep yourself from feeling your feelings. Feel sad,
eat chocolate, talk to your friends and your mom. CRY.
CRY. CRY!!! Once the sadness is over, the day will
come when you will wake up and your head will feel
clear and that weird feeling in your stomach will be
gone. If you allow the feelings to pass naturally, you’ll
be ready to move on and you won’t bring fucked up
baggage to your next relationship. HOWEVER! Make
sure to treat all of the people around you with
kindness. Just because you’re feeling like shit doesn’t
mean they have to be treated like it.
6. Hang with your guy friends.
I think it’s something about guys’ testosterone or
maybe just getting attention from a man that makes
you forget about your ex when you’re with them. Also,
they have other guy friends who they can hook you up
with. However, if they start putting the moves on you
it’s time to get a cab home. (Unless you’re into it.)
7. Help friends/family with a project you’ve been
My parents had been asking me to help them clean out
the garage. After my break up I took a whole weekend
and finally did it. Going to the dump and throwing
garbage into a sea of trash can be really liberating.
8. Join some sort of online dating/Tinder/Coffee Meets
Even if you’re not ready to move on, it’s helpful just to
see that there are other guys out there. At first, a lot
of them will gross you out and maybe just the idea of
being with someone else will gross you out. You might
delete it once before you’re serious about looking, but
reinstall and eventually a cute boy will talking to you
and you’re going to love it!
9. Don’t over analyze
There’s going to be plenty of things you can over
analyze when you’re going through a break up. Texts
and (he-said-this-to-that-person-kind of bullshit.) Rise
above all of it and move forward with a positive clear
mind knowing that all of that DOESN’T MATTER. It just
doesn’t. It’s over, that’s all there is to it.
10. There’s only one way through a break up.
Don’t look back. You made the decision for a reason.
Or if you’ve been reading this whole list thinking “I was
the one broken up with,” know that you’re better off
without someone who doesn’t want to be with you.
Either way, you’re free now. Be confident in the
direction that your life is moving and be good to those
around you. Take care of yourself.